Let your Love be like a Lighthouse

Tomorrow is Xavier's first day of kindergarten. He is excited. I'm excited too, and a little nervous for him. To be honest, I am not convinced that school will ultimately be good for him. I do think the kindergarten we have found for him will be awesome! But school in the traditional sense, I'm just not so sure. Luckily, Edmonton dos have a ton of really neat scholastic options.

When I was at Wanderlust I went to a speakeasy with MC Yogi. He told us parts of his story that day, the first time he had ever publicly shared aspects of his story. One thing that was really hard for him was being in school, and not because he isn't smart or disciplined enough but because it felt like prison to him. In short, school was a bad place for him to be.

When it came time for questions I sat quietly waiting to see if what I wanted to ask should really be asked. Then, at the end there was a moment and I knew I should ask my question. I wasn't sure how I would phrase it so I just started talking. I said something like, "I have a 5 year old son and he's very bright, he loves making music and singing song lyrics. You talked about your difficult experience with school and I guess, I'm...(choking up a little...deep breath) Hoooph. I guess I am more worried about it than I even knew. I'm worried about Xavier going to school and what it might do to him. So I don't know what my question is. Do you have anything, any insight you might share?"

He paused and said, "First of all, I see your love for your son and it is beautiful. Keep loving him like that. You see, you have to be the lighthouse. Your love is the lighthouse on the shore. His path will be whatever his path will be and all that you can do is love him with integrity, act with integrity. You don't want to go out there and try to guide him in because then nobody can find their way back. Let your love be solid and strong. Be the light so that when he needs you, he knows just where you are."

Woah. This is the only possible answer to what I was asking. Other people came up to me and said, "Have you thought of homeschooling?" I have. And then some who said they were worried too. Some who said try alternative schools. All kind suggestions but MC Yogi gave me the only TRUE answer possible. "His path will be what it will be. Your job is to love him unconditionally. And to act with integrity." Which points to the need to discover and to be my true authentic self.

Thank you so much MC Yogi <3 As Xavier partakes in his first day of kindergarten, I'll remember to always be his lighthouse, always shining for whenever he needs to come home.

"Where did she go?" Searching for the Self

It was Thursday night. I was tired and in a pretty negative head space. I had been reading Derrida's Of Grammatology, which I actually quite enjoyed, until I started discussing it with others. Hearing their interpretations, wondering if my own interpretations were wrong. Why should my interpretations be wrong? Why should their interpretations be either? A work, a text means what it means to you when you read it. The damage, the illumination, the propensity to question is already done upon ingesting the words. Of course you can change your mind, but better not to do so simply because of what another person says. Experience it for yourself, put what you have read to the test by searching deep deep inside...

That was a tiny rant. The post is to begin: It was a Thursday night and I was questioning my decision to take a 3 day yoga for kids teacher training. We needed a journal and I was looking everywhere for the one I was currently writing it. I couldn't find it anywhere but I found another one, one I had only written in once. The only entry began: "A fresh moleskin. I thought it was the old one. I was to work on my shadow poem that I had started. Xavier told me to write a poem about a little girl...maybe I should." So, on the night before my kids yoga teacher training I reread something, more of a musing than a poem, that I had written on February 20th, 2012.

Where did she go? I knew her once.
Deeply, wholly, truly, sweetly. I knew her.
Has she really gone or does she remain?
Somewhere in the depths of this me that has been constructed.
Constructed by me, my experiences, my reactions to the world around.
Life doesn't merely shape, it adds.
Layer upon layer while she sits quietly.
Unworried, unafraid beneath the heavy burden of "personality."
She waits, but wants nothing.

Once in a while she catches a glimpse,
sees the light through the time unlikely whole–
A tunnel through the mass of unreal, of imagined or of unimagined.
Sometimes Others can see her shine.
I see the light reflected back in me from their eyes.

To discover who you are, what you are, you must first dis-cover.
There is so much dis-covering to do.
Peeling back layer after layer, unrolling, de-velopping until all layers are removed.

To know who you are, begin by removing that which you are not.
It will sting, it will burn, it may even bleed.
Whatever is left in the end, whatever is revealed must be the answer.

She's in there. I know she is.
Wide eyed, the image of love and of truth.
That little girl, I will not lose her completely.
Indeed, to do so is impossible.
She will rule again, in this I trust.

When I reread those words I knew taking the training was in the cards (as they say). And (instead of 'but') I had no idea how transformative and how healing the kids yoga teacher training with Nicole Koleshis of Next Generation Yoga would be. Tears and oh so much laughter. Our inner children, the who we are at our core before life happened to us (often causing so much trauma along with the joy, often prompting so many walls to be built while still showing us the incredible beauty and love that is life) is really our inner Selves. Allowing your inner child to come out and play does so much more than show you some neat ways to engage children, it shows you how to move closer to living life as your authentic Self.

I sat in meditation on Saturday night after the second day of the training. My usual pain spot behind my right shoulder began to tingle. The tingling spread over my entire right shoulder, front and back, into my chest and then down my arm. It felt so healing, so good. And tears were coming followed by me observing in my body the experience of intense fear and inability to understand. You see, when I was about 2 years old I pulled a pot of boiling water (my nice little pot that I loved to play with) onto myself. I received third degree burns on my chest and right arm. I suspect that the scar tissue runs deep and I gained some insight into what that experience might have done to shape who I am, to form my outlook on the world. Not good, not bad-simply an insight into Self, some very useful svadhyaya (self-study).

I am deeply grateful to all the beautiful, fun, inspirational women who participated in the teacher training. And to our amazing teacher Nicole for helping us all to grow and to love ourselves a little more. "I am happy."

Themes? Patterns? Groupings? Why?

Today the moon is full. It's in Leo and that means creativity (according to some) or communicating with ancestors (according to others). I'm starting to think that all astrology is some pretty awesome cosmic storytelling...much interpretation going on. The point is, I feel like I should write something...but I don't know what. Before beginning I wanted to choose a theme, I wanted to have a title...my indecision nearly caused me to just call it quits and go to bed. But is life really like that? Do we live according to themes? No! It's mostly a wild ride and we try to make sense by grouping everything. So I thought I might just write and see where I end up...

Ancestors. I love my Grandma, and I miss her. I told my friend Sarah, after impressing her with my ability to taste that she didn't use quite as much butter as the shortbread recipe called for, that my knowledge of baking comes directly through an ancestral link to my Grandma's life experience. I have never even made shortbread! Maybe it's true, maybe I'm full of shit. Likely some of both.

I had so much fun visiting Sarah and Vagelli in Calgary. We even drove to the mountains, hiked along a gorgeous mountain stream and saw three amazingly beautiful elk (with huge antlers). And we danced. Dancing. There is something so healing about bodies moving together to the same rhythm. Something intriguing about the way each body represents that rhythm pulsing through it. We should all dance more, and sing. As a society, we are broken maybe because we don't incorporate singing and dancing into our daily lives anymore.

Someone told me that there is a drumming circle at some cafe in Edmonton. I want to go. I love drumming in drumming circles. But will I go? What am I afraid of? Or am I really really so busy (I kind of am for a bit). And spoken word. Spoken word is so powerful, especially live. I remember seeing Shauntay Grant in Halifax. Wow. And Magpie Ulysses at Ness Creek. Most of the spoken word poets I have ever seen have moved me tremendously...not always because they are incredibly talented (though most of them are) but because they are brave enough to share their words. They have let go of caring what people think enough to bare their souls to strangers...vulnerability. There really is power in being vulnerable. And sleepy...now I am sleepy....

The journey continues

I am in my office at school, supposedly writing a paper. I am a scholar. You see, I had my Vedic Astrology chart read by Paddi Moore(Paddi's blog). She said that I am a scholar, that I have been studying for many lifetimes. When she asked what it is that I do I told her, with a nervous, insecure laugh, that I am doing a PhD in French literature. Paddi doesn't miss much. My insecure laugh along with my chart confirmed that I don't value myself, I don't love myself enough, I could improve my self-worth. I've been intending to LOVE myself for awhile now (see LOVE is my intention post for how I dedicated my entire 200hr SATTVA training to loving myself). I'm making progress, but there's work to be done. She asked me to imagine what the world would be like if knowledge and wisdom were highly valued, valued even more than money. I thought to myself, "I would be a Queen in that world." I am wise (even writing that makes me cringe at the idea someone might judge me for being conceited-I do that too much. Worry about what others think. Try to please them somehow. Awkward and uncomfortable. Seldom resting into my authentic self). But I am wise. I walk into this amazing Old Arts building on the UofA campus most days, passing below the sculpted owl who reads a book as I heave open the heavy wooden doors. Owls. Wisdom. The owl that flew towards me in my meditation once.Wisdom and knowledge.

So I am working on finding value in me. I have already noted that nothing I ever do is good enough for me but I am going to stop being so self-critical and begin giving myself credit for the wonderfulness that is me. Rumi reminds me: "I remind you with these poems to dress in the flower of God's qualities, not your torn robe of self-accusation" (The Glance, 21). I want to take that robe off. I am also, according to my chart, highly spiritual and highly empathetic/sensitive/psychic. I am a nurturer. I care. We didn't get too far into the chart, actually. Much damage control to deal with. It's hard, mourning the loss of love for one's own self. Why can't I just love myself? How will I learn? More than anything I need to learn this, for Xavier. So he can grow up with a mother who truly loves herself, who has a strong sense of self-worth. How else we he believe in his own worth?

I decided to dance and be joyous as I dressed myself this morning. I was having fun but as I caught a glimpse of my body in the mirror I heard the all too familiar judgmental thoughts, mean cruel thoughts to myself about myself. I stood up for myself this time, stating things like, "Hey! That's not nice. Don't think that. I am beautiful, no matter what I say." Xavier and Meshon must have heard me. Meshon asked, "Are you arguing with someone?"
"With myself." I replied.
"What did yourself do to you mama?" My darling Xavier, so sweet.
"Myself was being mean to me." So I will work to silence the mean, judgmental self inhabiting my mind.

I share this perhaps too personal post because, I fear I am not alone in this. Self-loathing. A feeling of worthlessness. We end up living half-lives. I want to love myself enough to dream big, to live a huge and full life! I want to undress myself from this robe of self-accusation and self-judgment. If you feel the need to get naked, please get naked with me ;)

And finally, a poem from Rumi to inspire and enlighten:

Undressing
Learn the alchemy true human beings
know: the moment you accept what

troubles you've been given, the door
will open. Welcome difficulty

as a familiar comrade. Joke with
torment brought by the Friend.

Sorrows are the rags of old clothes
and jackets that serve to cover,

then are taken off. That undressing,
and the naked body underneath, is

the sweetness that comes after grief. (65)

The Power of Intention

I am becoming increasingly aware of just how powerful one's intentions can be. All the more reason for opening the heart so that the truest of that which you wish for can shine forth.

Last night I went to see Xavier Rudd, LIVE IN CONCERT! When I told Xavier that his aunty would put him to bed because mom and dad were going to see Xavier Rudd, "LIVE IN CONCERT," he replied: "LIVE IN CONCERT!? What? Xavier Rudd is REAL now? He came to our world? Holy granola bars!" (He's into making up expressions these days).

I wasn't sure which seats we had and had never been to the Myer Horowitz theatre before. We were in the 4th row along the edge. Before the show I made an intention to dance on stage at some point during the show. But you see, the thing is, it's less that I concsiously decided to make an intention and more that I realized the honest intention to do so was within my heart. I sort of knew beforehand that it would happen. I told Meshon, "I made the intention to dance on stage!" And he gently asked, "Will you be disappointed if you don't get to?" I quickly said, "No. I'm just going to be ready in case the moment comes."

Readiness. Willingness. Being ready for when the moment comes. The moment WILL come, if you are truly ready for it. So often we might think we want something but if we aren't wholeheartedly ready for that something, if we aren't fully prepared and genuinely open then it might not happen. I just danced on stage, it's not so huge. But it did take courage and openness. And also, awareness.

Xavier Rudd was playing "Let Me Be" when he called one beautiful young lady up on stage.

"Let Me Be" by Xavier Rudd

He kind of summoned her with a hand/finger gesture. Her boyfriend jumped up too and then the security guard took them off. The lovely long-haired beauty went back up and I was dancing away along the edge. Then Xavier Rudd look at me. His eyes said, "Do you want to come up here too?" I responded with my eyes, body and energy, "YES! I do. Thank you." His eyes then expressed, "Come on up then!" And we danced and danced and danced faster and faster and faster. A smile so huge upon my face that my top lip became stuck to my gums. I was working so hard that, by the time I was finished, my throat had that feeling of having exerted oneself to the point of making the lungs scream in painful ecstasy! (this may have been partly due to my nasty cough as well) Eventually the music slowed and we got down. It was a beautiful night and today I feel exactly as blissfully tired as one who has shattered everything through dance.

And I find myself wondering, how far can the power of pure intention take you? And will I be brave enough to follow the path that I know lies within me? "Please. Patience please. Patience please. I'm creating a dream."

I have a blog...but I don't write in it much anymore

Yes. It's true. I became a blogger and then faded away into non-bloggering. When I was in Moose Jaw I won an awesome t-shirt that says "peace" in a bunch of different languages and writing. It says shanti at the bottom. I said, "It's perfect because I have a blog called Shanti Shanna Lìmon...but I haven't written anything for ages."

So here I am. Writing. Blessed to be able to write and spell and use bad grammar and run-on sentences at will. To express soemthing in words, to express whatever it is I am expressing. Whatever it is you, dear reader, are finding to be meaning, perhaps, even, where there is none. But is there ever no meaning? Maybe. Is there always meaning? Maybe not. If one finds meaning then it is there, regardless of whether or not it was intended. So this leaves us with infinite possible meanings...leaving us where? Nowhere. And everywhere. All at the same time. This is a peaceful thought, no?

And so, I have begun my PhD and times are fun. I like learning. I love it. And languages! Theory. Beautiful humanities. So much less demand for objectivity. My French is improving daily. It is busy, yes. I am often rushing. Speed-reading. Multilingual classmates abound from all over the beautiful world. There is nothing I love more than hearing a Russian accent. I don't know why but I love it. It makes me feel so happy.

Blissed out on yoga. On meditating. Full moon. Sattva week-end. Strength sequence. Softening into strength. Fall is here. In the words of Xavier, "Don't know much about September. Feeling tender. Dead leaves on the ground. Dead leaves on the ground."

Love is my Intention

When we practice yoga we are often asked to set an intention before beginning, usually before chanting the mantra OM. Love is usually my intention. When asked what brought us to the Sattva teacher training with Rameen Peyrow, my intuitive answer was love. Then we were asked what, in one word, would be a barrier to that. I didn't know the answer then, but now I think I do. Judgement. Mother Theresa said, "When you judge people, you have no time to love them." Indeed. This applies especially to ourselves, I am learning. How many times each day do we judge ourselves in some way? And just how can we spread love and light if we haven't learned how to love our own selves? I do think it is easier to love others than to love oneself (I'm working on it).

We just finished doing a 2 month long cleanse. The diet restrictions were quite restrictive. But I feel really great. Of course, I had a few cheats along the way. Which brings up another quotation by a wise and wondrous woman, Indra Devi. She asked...damn, I can't find it anywhere. To sum up, she asked why, since the body is our most precious gift, would anyone choose to harm their body. Why? During the cleanse I self-sabotaged a few times. Nothing extreme but I ingested items that I knew would harm my body. Outside of cleansing I do this often. Maybe if I loved my body and my mind and my whole self then I would no longer intentionally harm myself. I don't know exactly why, as a woman, I don't always feel so beautiful and wondrous. Of course the obvious societal pressures and media influences aren't kind to women in general. I'm not sure the why is what matters; I think what matters is removing judgement and letting love fill the new space that is created in the absence of judgement.

After practice on Saturday a lovely, insightful and wittily brilliant woman told me, with utmost sincerity, that I was a beautiful woman. I got goosebumps. She said I was beautiful down to my bones. At that moment I believed here and I felt really solid. The following is a poem by Theodore Roethke; she said that I remind her of the woman:

I knew a woman, lovely in her bones,
When small birds sighed, she would sigh back at them;
Ah, when she moved, she moved more ways than one:
The shapes a bright container can contain!
Of her choice virtues only gods should speak,
Or English poets who grew up on Greek
(I'd have them sing in a chorus, cheek to cheek).

How well her wishes went! She stroked my chin,
She taught me Turn, and Counter-turn, and Stand;
She taught me Touch, that undulant white skin;
I nibbled meekly from her proffered hand;
She was the sickle; I, poor I, the rake,
Coming behind her for her pretty sake
(But what prodigious mowing we did make).

Love likes a gander, and adores a goose:
Her full lips pursed, the errant notes to seize;
She played it quick, she played it light and loose;
My eyes, they dazzled at her flowing knees;
Her several parts could keep a pure repose,
Or one hip quiver with a mobile nose
(She moved in circles, and those circles moved).

Let seed be grass, and grass turn into hay:
I'm martyr to a motion not my own;
What's freedom for? To know eternity.
I swear she cast a shadow white as stone.
But who would count eternity in days?
These old bones live to learn her wanton ways:
(I measure time by how a body sways).


This compliment to me has given me confidence. I am so grateful for her gift to help me along my path to self-love and ultimately to love, love, love everywhere and all around.

Here's REM doing a cover of Love is All Around